back to what it had become

Once someone analyzed my blog posts for each year and told me, my writing has declined in frequency.

Once that someone asked me to write more and, sort of, became the motivation to write more. 

Today, I noticed, I am back to the same frequency as I had fallen to. 

Every day, I notice that Life, or something like that... is back to what it had become.

Anyway, don't go counting now. Just know that I am fine.

It's my superpower after all - I am always fine!

Sweet November

November! 

The month of nostalgia for me. Well, every month is a month of nostalgia, if you are old enough. But even by my standards, November is more special than others. For this is the month that contains most of my sweetest (and some saddest) memories. 

It is the month of promotions. The month of writing CAT. The month of ruining CAT and cracking CAT. And then, the month of changing the track of life forever. 

The month where food palette changed to include Chowk's Makkhan. The month where dew drops started to increase. The month where the school times changed for an extra 15-minute nap. 

This was the month when Meha met an accident and we thrashed the car that hit her. Sounds scary? It was. But that was also the beginning of an 11-year long love-story of Gunjoo and Meha (which culminated in their marriage btw)!! Not everyone in my life-story is sad, you see!

It is also the month of most of my birthday treats with friends because October was always lost in Dashehra-Diwali vacations. The month of ice-cream statue of liberty, the month of picnics and group photos, the month of sitting beside the rivers or in sunlight or below stars, all for no reason. 

It is the month of the first kiss and the biggest break-up, both of which incidentally happened on the same date, years apart. November is the month of some of the most-treasured peoples' birthdays and little wonder, the most-treasured ones hurt the most too.

And November is the month of the sweetest hint of pinkish-winters that I love. While everything of the above is lost for long now, I am thankful for those winters still somewhere round the corner. And for those memories of the Sweet November!!!

उस मन में किसका ध्यान था ...

Aaj Karwa Chauth hai. The day of fasting for the long life of love (or, at least the life partner, as the two need not be are not the same often)! 

A friend from Lucknow has been constantly posting for 2-3 days now about his experience around the festival. Frantic, frequent, festive details. Fumbling, flabbergasting, funny details. Factual, fanciful, factitious details. 

And what do I do? What else can I do but reminisce? After all, nostalgia is my destiny, remembering is my curse.

I remember the time when someone wanted to fast for me. It felt awkward. The same awkwardness, when someone touches my feet. I feel humbled by the burden of greatness thrust upon me by the act of touching the feet. Same way, I felt humbled by the tinge of divinity seen in me. What did I do? 

Well, whatever I did, I wrote about it, albeit long after. 

You know, I imagined, if she still fasts for someone else! What if she fasts for someone else but, while fasting and praying, thinks of someone else? Well, maybe, that is how I live on despite no such intentions!

याद के जंगल में अब 

कोई नया साया नहीं, 

बाद उसके इन नज़ारों 

को कोई भाया नहीं ।  

तीज पर या चौथ पर 

उस मन में किसका ध्यान था ? 

उम्र बढ़ी बोलो किसकी 

जब उसने कुछ खाया नहीं ।  

उसकी कुछ बातें नयी 

तुम ही सुनाओ ऐ रक़ीब, 

बस पुरानी बात है 

मैं और कुछ लाया नहीं । 

An idea whose time never came!

It was a day in making for many days now... Today, I tore off all my personal diaries. All 8 diaries. 20 years of writing. About a thousand pages. Everything. 

In between, I looked at some pages. Somethings were always fresh in memory. Some faded thoughts reappeared. Some forgotten names were recalled. Almost everything made me a bit of emotional, a bit of nostalgic, a bit of sad, and a bit of irritated. There were friends, strangers, estranged friends, friendly strangers, teachers, students, loves, laughs, moments, fights, loves, kisses, hugs, tears, and everything that had been there in the past 20 years! 

While tearing everything away, I kept some random pictures or thoughts in between. Like, in the struggling years, a page had only this written - "I am an Idea whose time has not come!". Another page had random thoughts written, like this one: 

And I wrote not on pages and margins only but sometimes, even the diary covers had some messages. Like this: 

And in between those pages, there were the stories of my Lucknow days, when life was shaping up, my IIMA days, when life was full of events and challenges, my longing for Lucknow and then, disenchantment with Lucknow, Indore and IIM Indore days, my travels to different places and for different purposes. There were the stories of all the love I got, all the love I missed, all the loves I kissed, and all the love that couldn't be. There were the lists of my happiest memories and the best moments of life and the best people in my life and the loveliest loves of my life and the superpowers I want and the places I wanted to visit and the milestones I wanted to cross.... 

In essence, like I wrote in this blog post here about my autobiography, today - I destroyed all the notes for that story. Pretty soon, I am planning on deleting on a lot of other stories and stuff as well. Why - you ask? Because I am an idea, whose time never came. And never will. At the end, all that remains is this - a bag full of wasted life, forgotten memories, and ideas, whose time never came!!!

Nanaji

Aaj Nanaji ka birthday hai. 

It used to be a special day for all of us in the family. I don't remember when it ceased to be special. Nanaji is no more. I don't even remember when did he pass away. All I remember is that I was heading to take a class that morning when Didi called. I took the class, I took the lunch, and the day went on as usual. I did not meet him in his final few years. I guess it all went downhill after he moved away from this room, where the picture below was taken. After that, distances were huge and he was not himself ever again. I was not close to him in his final years and did not see him in his final days. I don't know what would we have discussed in those days, as he was more bitter than usual and forgetful too.

I am also forgetting things now, some by design, some by default. But I remember that growing up, he had a huge influence on me. He told me tons of stories, I asked him tons of questions, and we spent so much time in intense discussions that the others in the family often wondered what we two had to talk about. Today, I also don't know what we had to talk about but all I remember is that those were some of my best discussions. 

Somethings that I do remember are that he wrote accounts, exercised daily, had a poor childhood, dropped out of school after his mother passed away, rose to the middle class with hard struggles, and loved Raj Kapoor. In fact, he was my window to Raj Kapoor songs and also, to Kundal Lal Sehgal songs. That is why I learned a lot of RK songs in my early years.

Yesterday, I heard a lot of those same songs again.

Yesterday, I sang those songs till my jaw hurt.

Yesterday, I wish I could sing a few more songs with Nanaji.

जीत जाओगी अगर तुम हार जाओ

एक उम्र आती है जब व्यक्ति यह समझता ही नहीं, स्वीकार भी कर लेता है कि उसका जीवन, उसके अनुभव अद्वितीय नहीं।  यह सब कोई न कोई और जी चुका है, कोई न कोई और कह चुका है, कोई न कोई और लिख चुका है। जब भी अपने जीवन को देख कर कुछ लिखने का मन होता है, याद आ जाता है कि यह तो कोई और ही लिख चुका है। जैसे कि ये लिखा था उषा प्रियम्वदा ने पचपन खम्भे लाल दीवारें के पृष्ठ ११४ पर: 

"वह नील से यह कह न पाई कि तुम मुझे भुला देना, या समय सब भुला देता है।  सांत्वना के ऐसे घिसे पिटे शब्द उसके होठों पर न आये।  वह जानती थी कि कुछ रेखाएँ ऐसी भी होती हैं, जिन्हें समय भी मिटा नहीं पाता।  भूलना क्या होता है ? मन समझाने की बातें, कायरों के बहाने ! जो कुछ नील ने उसे दिया और जो कुछ नील ने उससे पाया, उस विनिमय ने उन दोनों को साधारण व्यक्तियों से अपांक्तेय कर दिया।  

दैनिक कार्यों में रत हो कर, नाते-रिश्ते निभाते हुए भी, अब वे पहले से नहीं हो पाएंगे, क्योंकि उनका कुछ अंश एक-दूसरे  जाएगा ... किसी छोटी सी बात, किसी की हँसी, किसी के देखने का ढंग या किसी अपरिचित की कमीज़ के रंग से नील फिर जी उठेगा।  अलग होने के बाद रहना राख के ढके कोयलों पर चलना होगा।  न जाने कौन सा अंगारा दहकता रह जाए और पाँव जला दे।"

तो अब बताओ, इस बात को दोबारा कहने से क्या ही होगा! इसीलिए जब कोई फेसवॉश हाथ आये तो, कोई जलेबी वाला गाना सुनाई दे जाए तो, या कोई डब्बा रख कर ढक्कन फ़ेंक देने की ही बात कर दे तो ... और ऐसे कितने ही मौकों पर एक अंगारा सुलगता सा लग जाए तो ... 

तो ऐसे में बहुत कुछ याद आता है, बहुत कुछ मन से हो कर गुज़र जाता है, और बहुत कुछ कहने का मन कर जाता है है।  और फिर एकदम से याद आता है कि जो कहना था, वो तो पंकज बिष्ट ने लिख दिया था १९९२ में अपनी कहानी - उस गोलार्ध में - 

"तुम ठीक ही कह रहे हो।  'टाइम इज़ द ग्रेटेस्ट हीलर।' असल में, समय के साथ कुछ हद तक सब ठीक ही हो गया है।  हम अपनी - अपनी दुनिया में हैं।  पर हम पेड़ नहीं हैं कि इस पतझड़ के बाद फिर से वसंत आएगा।  बीता समय अंग-भंग की तरह है।  उसकी क्षतिपूर्ति नहीं हो सकती।  स्थितियों के साथ समझौता ही किया जा सकता है। अगर रहना है तो स्थितियों के मुताबिक़ ढलना होता है।  अपनी कमी को स्वीकार करना होता है।  अहं और आक्रामकता ज़िन्दगी नहीं है।" 

मैं अपनी पुरानी डायरी खोलता हूँ, इन सबको पढ़ता हूँ, और फिर कहने को कुछ रहता ही नहीं।  फिर खुद से भागने को रेडियो खोलता हूँ, गुलज़ार का एक गाना चल रहा है - 

तुम्हें ये ज़िद थी कि हम बुलाते, हमें ये उम्मीद वो पुकारें 

है नाम होठों पे अब भी लेकिन, आवाज़ में पड़ गयीं दरारें ..... 

उसे भी बंद करना पड़ा। यहाँ से भी भाग कर एक किताब उठायी है। गणित की किताब और पहले पृष्ठ पर लिखा मिला है - जीत जाओगी अगर तुम हार जाओ।

कहा था ना ...

 कहा था ना - मैं मरूँगा नहीं! 

So sample these - It is only me who is holding back myself, not you. The moment I decide, I can compose beautiful poems. The moment I decide, I can click wonderful birds. The moment I decide, I can change lives for good. The moment I decide, I can ...!

जब भी चाहेंगे ज़माने को बदल डालेंगे, 

सिर्फ कहने के लिए बात बड़ी है यारों